I live most of my year in Ukraine.
Beautiful country. And very much a part of the Former Soviet Union (Russia).
The people are very Slavic. They speak Russian, and some speak Ukrainian.
They are very family oriented. You cannot understand them without understanding their need for family. To them marriage is a part of life, growing up, and family.
So, imagine with me as I flew back to the USA.
I get off of the plane, and I enter a familiar and strange world. I came back to America.
Many women do not want to get married. Now, that is not what most women would tell you.
What they would tell you is they “want to be certain he is the right guy.” On the surface, this sounds smart. Especially given how many people will get a divorce.
But, what would any of that have to do with the ‘average’ 35 year old single-woman living with a man for five years, and still going out to ‘party with the girls?’
By the way, the average married woman is happy and only married ONCE. Over two-thirds of first time marriages stay together according to the IRS. They have a lot of tax returns indicating this.
So, why do so many American women think marriage is a dead end? Ukrainian women think marriage is a goal. Like Cinderella, they want to be appreciated for being women.
So, why the difference?
I think it is because of our media and hollywood. I think women (& men) have been taught to believe marriage is bad.
Can we restore marriage to being a good thing for American men and women?
I am not sure.
But, what is wrong with marriage? From my point of view,
But, there is something wrong with what we think about marriage here in America.
Do you agree? Disagree?